Please be aware of this before entering this forum.If you are posting about actions of yours which you feel are/were abusive please post about this in The Remorse Forum.It is a very personal experience and there is an infinite way people have experienced sexual assault, cope with sexual assault, and disclose sexual assault."They also might not fully have come to terms with what happened to them, so let them guide the conversation."I did not actually identify as a survivor of sexual assault until I had a partner that validated that things that happened to me were rightfully traumatizing and violent," Sarit Luban, a 26-year-old writer told ATTN:."I knew I felt messed up from what had happened, that bad things had happened, but when I did share them previously, I was met with blame, or like I was being dramatic, sensitive.
Please also note that discussions about Incest in this forum are only in relation to abuse.
An unsettling number of Americans experience sexual violence each year — around 293,066, according to RAINN.
It is extremely jarring to hear that your partner has been a victim of sexual violence, but if they do choose to share what they've experienced, it is crucial that you respond in a validating and respectful way and educate yourself on how to be a supportive, sensitive partner.
Years of going over each event in my mind, analyzing it from every angle, replaying the hands gripping my wrists and wondering if maybe I could have twisted my body differently, could have screamed louder or tried a different collection of words that might have prevented it all from happening the way that it did. I didn’t cause him to go crazy, I found a way to survive when it turned out that he had deep-rooted psychological problems.
As I have gone through the recovery process, I have begun to realize and to accept that what happened to me was not my fault.