I was curious as to what your real opinion is of online dating.
I did meet my girlfriend online, but after a year of painful struggle, meaning hardly any dates despite being educated, employed, and reasonably attractive.
My friends are a supportive lot, never more so than in January when my relationship of a year-plus came to an end. "It was no fun at all when you had an ongoing relationship.
But I did notice a recurring theme in their brand of comfort. Have a hug," was the general response, followed by the eager words: "So you'll be Internet dating again soon? We like the stories of your terrible dates so much better." It's true. How To Date Online Here's the formula: select some improbably flattering photographs of yourself, compose an over-bright bio and post it on your site of choice (generally I go for people can be a tad... Take the approach from one potential suitor who messaged me: "I am passionate about Egyptian architecture. I am passionate about justice for children in care." Aside from what a stonking evening of fun that promised, I was strongly tempted to reply: "I am opposed to justice for children in care." Bad Date Diary Other bizarre approaches came along in no time.
Forget those demented TV ads for dating sites, where toothy zealots espouse the buzz of it all. Chance encounters with witty hunks are movie-only occurrences. Call me defeatist, but since I started working from home the opportunities for striking up amusing banter are reduced. I fondly recall the one who was a newly arrived immigrant, and spoke little English ("I am mostly improvings my dwelling unit") but was unusually keen to marry soon.
Anyone who has tried it knows it can be a unique form of un-fun. There was another who had narrowed down his specified age preference to "between 18 and 80." And the guy who expressed a preference for "women in sensible shoes." Where I come from, women in sensible shoes aren't all that interested in men generally.
Man barely lasts two hours as a woman because the responses from his fellow men are so toxic.
“At first I thought it was fun, I thought it was weird but maybe I would mess with them or something and freak them out and tell them I was a guy or something, but as more and more messages came (either replies or new ones I had about 10 different guys message me within 2 hours) the nature of them continued to get more and more irritating.
That, or listening to the man deliver a 60-minute speech about -- ooh, can you guess? My first date was with a guy who had fantastically clammy palms, and whose hands shook so much that it was a miracle his sweat-coated fingers could get any purchase on his glass.
Friends of both genders tell that their experiences have been hard in different ways.
My guy friends (also educated, attractive) complain that they get no responses and female acquaintences tell me that they get so many emails, etc, that they don’t know where to start-and often do nothing.
Hell, I just gave a TEDx talk about this very thing.
Men scramble to approach women like rats chewing on a meaty chicken bone, and then wonder why women are so turned off by them.